The power of detachment and choice! Choose Detachment Stay Happy!

Wondering what's the relation between detachment and choice?Read entire article then.
I've been thinking on various ways to avoid suffering. In this quest to stay away from Suffering as far as possible, I stumbled over Swami Vivekananda's quote/saying whatever it is "You must reserve the power of detachment and attachment both with you." I thought more about it.
Like death, we all are bound to face suffering one time or the other. We have no choice to make about death. When it arrives, we just got to die as simple as that. But when you think about suffering, we definitely have a choice to make. It is up to you whether to suffer or experience pain or choose the other way .. the best way .. that is not to suffer.
You may have a loud mom or wife or friend or boss or all of them and more. When you hear them screaming some illogical blah blah .. your heart beats faster.. you will react to their bitter words by using more bitter words. This is a vicious circle. That leads to abuses .. sleeplessness .. mental torture. You suffer! Period.
Same happens when someone sends you a text that irritates you with useless blah... you react..opposite person reacts ... arguments.. torture and again.. Suffering.
"Choose detachment" instead! Someone shouts at you. Someone sends you a text/mail that makes your blood boil.. wait do not let your blood boil! Train your mind to such an extent that what opposite person is screaming at you are just sounds. Not words! Hope you will understand the difference I am mentioning. Similarly train your mind that some one's text/mail is not a message from them. It is just some random text you are reading in a novel or newspaper.
Mind and body reacts in a different way based on what it is receiving. If you train it to recognise abuses as sheer sounds, you stay calmer you AVOID suffering. If you train your mind to recognise mails.texts as some random article you are reading, it reacts differently. You won't react! You won't suffer.
One doubt that pops your mind as soon as you read is , what the heck I must reply to those sounds/text when there is a decision to make. What should I do!
I agree you got to reply to the Sounds/Text. However, let some time pass between the time your hear the sounds/read and the time you respond. I am sure you will make better decisions and avoid suffering

Choose Detachment Stay Happy!